A couple have told how they're raising their baby as gender-neutral because they want to protect the child from "unconscious bias".
Hobbit Humphrey, 38, and Jake England-Johns, 35, appeared on BBC One's Inside Out last night and told of how their dress their baby Anoush in both girls and boys clothes.
The couple are both circus performers and live on a house boat in Kensham near Bath.
While dressing Anoush in both colours can confuse passersby, the couple believe it's the right choice for their family.
Anoush's paternal grandmother didn't discover their gender until she changed their nappy at 11-months.
Hobbit and Jake have asked family members and friends to use gender neutral pronouns 'they' and 'them' when speaking or addressing their child.
Speaking on the BBC programme, the couple said Anoush – whose name was changed to Charlie during the show – can decide their own gender and preferred pronoun when they're older.
Mr England-Johns said: "Gender neutral refers to us trying to behave neutrally towards the child, rather than trying to make them neutral.
"We're not trying to make them be anything. We just want them to be themselves."
Hobbit Humphrey added: "So much of gender bias is unconscious. When I got pregnant we then were having a discussion about how we were going to mitigate the unconscious bias.
"And we figured that the only way we could do that was just not to tell people.
"To use the they/them pronoun for as long as we can, and create this little bubble for our baby to be who they are.
"Eventually they will get told by somebody that pink is only for girls and blue is only for boys, and you can't play with that because you are a particular sex.
"That's still a thing that happens these days. We're just trying to protect Anoush from that."
Mr Humprey's mum Camille, 64, discovered the tot's gender when she changed its nappy when the baby was 11-months-old.
She said: "It was a struggle… but as with any learning over time it became embedded and they became 'they'."
Mr England-Johns added: "We are quite good now at holding space for people's discomfort in us saying, ''Actually, we don't tell anyone, we're not telling anyone for now''. We're just letting Anoush be a baby.
"Anoush is the most lovely little human. They're into everything, they're really active — just a delight."
Ms Humphrey said: "It was tricky at first when not only were we new parents, but also new parents who had the problem of people getting upset about our baby being gender neutral.
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