How do I make living with my soon-to-be ex-husband easier?

DEAR DEIDRE: I AM still living in the same house as my soon-to-be ex-husband and things between us are very tense.

My husband and I separated a year ago after ten years of marriage.

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The problem is we’re stuck in a rental agreement and neither of us can afford to move out until we are divorced.

He’s in the spare room and we had to go through the lockdowns together.

I ended our marriage and he’s clearly angry with me. He is being difficult, telling me I need his permission to do things in the house and even taking back presents.

He won’t help with any chores and he’s often rude and starts rows.

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I understand he’s upset but the atmosphere is horrible and I don’t think I can carry on like this.

We’re both 45. We have a 15-year-old daughter and this isn’t good for her. What can I do?

DEIDRE SAYS: This is a horrible situation faced by many separating couples.

The housing charity Shelter ( might be able to help you with advice on your specific situation. There is information on its website about joint tenancies and relationship breakdown.

Please try explaining to your husband that you are worried about the effect of this animosity on your daughter.

It is not good for her to hear her dad bad-mouthing you. My support pack When Parents Fall Out explains more.

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