I'm in love with my best mate's girlfriend – should I tell her?

DEAR DEIDRE: I FEEL like something’s wrong with me because I’ve fallen for my best friend’s girlfriend.

I’m 24 and have never been in a relationship.

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All my friends seem to have settled down and seem genuinely happy. I want what they have, but I haven’t found the right girl yet.

A couple of weeks ago I started having dreams about my best friend’s partner. I’d imagined us going on dates together and her meeting my family.

I’ve considered messaging this girl and letting her know how I feel.

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I feel there’s a small chance she could feel the same. She’s always really friendly and seems interested in what I’ve been up to.

Is this a crazy idea?

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DEIDRE SAYS: In a word, yes. Don’t risk losing your friend and making things awkward in your friendship group.

Plus, you may be reading too much into her kindness. She is probably being friendly because she knows how close you and her boyfriend are.

The best relationships start from friendships, so make an effort to meet some new people.

The new year is a great time to join new clubs. Find local ones on meetup.com.

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