What are we to make of this week’s extravagant celebrity weddings?

Karl Stefanovic and Jasmine Yarbrough at their wedding ceremony in Mexico.

If you're a celebrity wedding watcher, the past week has provided plenty of marriage "porn".

First, there was the wedding of Bollywood star (and best friend of Meghan Duchess of Sussex) Priyanka Chopra to singer Nick Jonas, complete with all the trappings of a five-day Indian extravaganza.

The drones! The 23-metre veil! The Ralph Lauren dress!

The wedding has even resulted in its own "hate-read" scandal, ending in an apology and retraction from New York magazine website The Cut's editor. But this is the internet and people looking for the original Mariah Smith article, in which she accued Chopra of being a "global scam artist", don't need to Google their hearts out to find it.

Australia also had two high-profile weddings over the weekend. The bigger of the two was that of Today host Karl Stefanovic to shoe designer Jasmine Yarbrough, held over four days in Mexico.

Acres of copy have already been written about everything from the bride's "mullet" dress to the guest list (as the Sydney Morning Herald reported, James Packer and Alan Jones were late scratchings, such was the intense level of media interest).

On Friday, Sydney publicist Montarna McDonald married lawyer Nick Pitt in a lavish celebration in the Hunter Valley, with every moment captured on a rolling feed of Instagram stories.

And the previous week, influencer Pia Muehlenbeck married Kane Vato in a celebration in Byron Bay that included a "neutrals" dress code for guests and two gowns of her own that would be worth well into five figures.

As if all this weren't enough, on Tuesday morning we woke to news that Beyonce had performed at the $139-million, week-long wedding of the daughter of India’s wealthiest businessman. Granted, the family of Ambani and Anand Piramal also put on a substantial display of work by local artisans, and made a charitable donation to feed Udaipur's most impoverished citizens for four days.

However, the concentration of wedding largesse in our social media feeds this week has brought into focus the issue of the rising expense couples – celebrity and not – are prepared to spend on what is essentially one day (or four, as the case may be) of their lives.

When a multi-dress, multi-day wedding becomes the celebrity norm, it's natural for "ordinary" people to aspire to similar heights, even when they don't have the means to do so.

Australian weddings now cost, on average, somewhere in the range of $36,000, according to figures calculated for the Australain Securities and Investments Commission's Moneysmart website.

Astonishingly, 60 per cent of respondents to the survey, which allowed for multiple answers, said they obtained a loan to pay for their big day.

I worry that some of these recent celebrity weddings are adding to the already pernicious idea that more is more.

I was once married and was fortunate enough to have parents and grandparents who could afford to pay for the event. But I realise not everyone is in this category. It was also in 2008, long before Instagram and social media added to pressure to create the "perfect" ceremony and reception. As it was, I had a dedicated "wedding folder" (remember those?) brimming with pictures cut from bridal and celebrity magazines of how I wanted my wedding to look.

But even then, I knew of brides – and I admit, I was one of them – who got so swept up in the end game of the wedding, that the bigger picture of the marriage somehow got a bit lost in the planning.

I worry that some of these recent celebrity weddings are adding to the already pernicious idea that more is more. From seemingly innocuous trends such as wedding hashtags, to destination hen's and buck's parties, the cost of getting married the "Insta-way" in 2018 seems to be getting out of control.

Still, there are pockets of positivity. Just look at last week's totally non-glam but heart-melting wedding between rugby union star David Pocock and Emma Palandri. The bride wore a simple but pretty day dress and there were no celebrity guests (at least not according to social media). Heck, they even carried their own Esky to the celebrations.

Now, I love a good wedding. I may even want another one one day. And I'm not out to cruel anyone's plans for a big celebration, so long as it meets two key criteria: that the couple isn't spending beyond their means, and that it's about the celebration of love between two people – not just what looks great on social media.

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