A man has defended himself after he told a "silly single mum" with an "out of control" autistic son to calm down in Wetherspoons.
Jenny Clough was left in tears by the incident at Wetherspoons Pen Cob restaurant in Pwllheli when the diner, who has not been named, said her five-year-old son Jack was making ‘too much noise.’
Jenny, 32, from Manchester, claims the youngster was making a bit of noise for "about 60 seconds at most" after he become overwhelmed.
And she also claims, the man came over and said: "It wasn’t his f***ing problem" and he was trying to have a nice meal with his wife.
“I felt he was bullying me and my son, he was just glaring at us,” she said.
Miss Clough went public with her story and told the Daily Post: “I’ve never sobbed like that or been that emotional in my life."
However the man who allegedly made the remarks has now hit back in a letter to the newspaper.
He claims to have "politely" asked Miss Clough to calm her son down and insists he “did not ask her to leave” the restaurant.
In the scathing letter, he also states that Jack, who was diagnosed with autism last year, was “out of control” and throwing rubbish on the floor, and accuses Jenny of being a “silly single mum” unable to cope with her “unruly child”.
The diner, who says he was having lunch with his wife and another couple, wrote: “She said her son was overwhelmed so instead of pacifying him or more wisely taking him away from that environment/situation she just sat there and let him carry on?
“He was out of control! It went on for ten minutes.
“The boy went outside and was perfectly calm and unstressed but when he came back in he exploded into an uncontrollable rage screaming as loud as he could, stamping his feet and covering his ears when he was spoken to.
“People around us were becoming as uncomfortable as we were.”
He claims he asked a manager whether they could ask Miss Clough to quieten the child down, but says the manager told him: “I wish I could – but they won’t b****y let me!”
The letter-writer continues: “I asked Miss Clough politely if she could possibly quieten her child down as his behaviour was affecting others who were trying to eat their lunch.
“I didn’t raise my voice, I was not aggressive, I most certainly did not swear and I did not ask her to leave!”
The man claims that, when he approached the mum, she went “berserk”.
He also claims that another diner then began shouting in his face and swearing at him.
“She accused us of having no understanding or sympathy for disability,” he wrote.
“I pointed out that we were aware of disability and that our friends had more experience than most.”
In the letter, the man says he has a grandson with OCD and ADHD, and has friends whose son has severe learning difficulties.
Defending his actions, he states that Miss Clough’s account of the incident is “pure fiction from the mind of a single mum who clearly can’t cope with her child’s behaviour”.
He continues: “I simply asked her if she could try and quieten her son down – that’s all.
“The rest is pure fiction and over dramatisation including her Oscar winning speech to make her out to be a victim of a situation where she was clearly unable to cope with an unruly child.
“I’m really angry about this because the lynch mob mentality of the great unwashed on Facebook are screaming for my blood because a silly single mum couldn’t cope.”
The man in question has since been barred from the pub, with a spokesperson for the company apologising to Miss Clough.
All managers will now be retrained in dealing with incidents of this type, says the company.
Responding to the accusations in the letter, Miss Clough said: “It wasn’t ever about him. He is irrelevant to me.
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“I just wanted to raise awareness about children with additional needs.
“This is the first time this has happened to me and I wouldn’t want it to happen to anyone else.
“If he wants to defend himself, he can. He is entitled to his opinion and if he wants to say I can’t cope with my child then that’s fine, but I stick by my account word for word.
“I have had lots of messages of support from people thanking me for doing the article and raising awareness – for every 10 negative responses I’ve had hundreds of positive ones.”
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