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<\/p>\nMy mate is a caveman. He thinks it\u2019s clever to show me smutty pictures of his girlfriend naked.<\/p>\n
He sidles up and whispers: \u201cHave a look at this one.\u201d I don\u2019t know if he expects me to be \u00adimpressed or turned on, but I\u2019m not interested.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s barking up the wrong tree. If I want to look at a naked woman, I look at my own partner or we view soft porn together.<\/p>\n
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I work alongside him every day at the garage run by my uncle. I want to blow my top but my uncle is a hard taskmaster who doesn\u2019t like conflict in the workplace. I fear rocking the boat. <\/p>\n
But why should I have to put up with having filth flung in my face? This muppet doesn\u2019t only show me pictures of his girl, oh no. There are often films of them having sex and shots of him with other women and couples.<\/p>\n
He fancies himself as a sex god and swinger. Evidently, the cul-de-sac he\u2019s moved into is a hotbed of wife-swapping. But it\u2019s too much for me. I\u2019m no prude \u2013 my partner and I enjoy a very healthy physical \u00adrelationship, but I never feel the need to brag.<\/p>\n
The other thing is I\u2019m not sure his girlfriend knows that he betrays her. I\u2019ve met her a few times down the pub and she seems shy and reserved. My partner is convinced she has no idea that my mate humiliates her. Should someone tell her? How do I handle this when I\u2019m beginning to dread going into work each day? <\/p>\n
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JANE SAYS: I\u2019m in no doubt that your colleague gets a cheap thrill out of cornering and embarrassing you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Each time he flashes a smutty image in your face he feels emboldened, but he\u2019s abusing your friendship.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Your uncle employs you both to crack on. None of us likes to be distracted when we\u2019re attempting to earn a living. Tell him today to stop or you\u2019ll make an official complaint.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
I understand that your uncle isn\u2019t interested in personal matters, but you\u2019re entitled to speak out and complain. Are other colleagues targeted too?<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
If your mate won\u2019t stop make it clear that your work is being impacted. <\/i><\/b>Is your uncle prepared to face this matter and talk <\/i><\/b>to him or do you have to check out ACAS (acas.org.uk) regarding your working conditions?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
As for your mate\u2019s relationship, is your partner inclined to speak to the woman in question to warn her?<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Other people\u2019s arrangements are often complicated. For all you know his girlfriend could know he shares intimate images of her.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
It might be their \u201cthing\u201d \u2013 the fruity act that turns them both on and sparks their sex life. <\/i><\/b>But another woman speaking to her might be appropriate. There\u2019s every chance she\u2019ll tell you both to butt out, but I think it\u2019s worth a try, especially if he\u2019s bullying or even coercing her.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n